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    • About Us >
      • Our Mission
      • Our Staff
      • Facilities >
        • Description's of Our Facilities
        • Dining and Meeting
        • Sacred Spaces
        • Cabin Villages
        • Recreational Spaces
      • Map of Camp Wightman
      • Our Activities Include
      • A Message for Parents from Holly Blacker, Our Interim Director
      • Building Disciples for Jesus Christ
      • Here's What Our Families Say
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        • Action, Sun, Friends, Faith
        • Missing Home...before you've dropped them off?
        • Celebrating Each Child's Uniqueness -- Camp Style!
        • Outside? Me? But there's dirt and bugs and stuff out there...
        • Developing an Attitude of Gratitude
      • Covid-19 Protocols
  • Summer Camp
    • Dates & Rates 2021
    • Tiered Pricing Explained
    • Registration
    • Forms & Packing List
    • Preparing for Camp
    • Camper FAQs
    • Wait List Information
    • Summer Staff Application Form
    • Summer Staff Information
  • Retreats & Conferences
    • Retreat & Conference Centers
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    • Programs: Ours or Yours
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Missing Home...before you've dropped them off?

​“Homesickness" (or more accurately missing home) is normal for people of all ages. In study after study, researchers found that 95% of boys and girls who were spending at least two weeks at overnight camp felt some degree of homesickness….(It) is typically mild. Nearly everyone misses something about home when they’re away….the vast majority of children have a great time at camp and are not bothered by mild homesickness. Missing home is something everyone can learn to handle. In fact, research has uncovered multiple strategies that work for kids. Most kids use more than one strategy to help them deal with homesickness.” --  Dr. Chris Thurber (www.summercamphandbook.com)

We want your child (and you) to be as prepared as possible for their camp session. Below you will find a list of good ideas to help with that preparation and a couple of things to avoid. There is also information about how we handle missing home at camp along with when you should contact us and when we will contact you.

Please do:
  • Focus on how much fun camp will be.
  • Visit the site. We cannot stress enough the importance of a first time camper (child or teen) seeing where they will stay, walking the paths, checking out the waterfront, and being able to ask questions of a staff member. Camp Wightman's Family Fun Days and Rookie Camper Day are perfect times for such a visit, but if you are unable to attend one of these, please contact the site to schedule a visit.
  • Talk briefly about how it is normal for all of us to miss home and the people there when we are away.
  • Help your child come up with coping strategies if they feel sad while at camp. Here are a few ideas:
  1. Be sure to pack a favorite stuffed animal, special “snuggly,” or favorite book that they can use during FOB (rest time) or at Lights Out (bedtime). Almost everyone has them at camp. If they are worried about feeling “babyish” then pack something small in their pillowcase until they see what others (including their counselors) in their cabins have on display!
  2. Keep a positive attitude and participate in the fun activities, even when feeling sad.
  3. Talk to their counselor or other adult at camp.
  4. Write a letter telling about camp and their feelings.
  5. Keep a camp journal and/or take pictures to show friends and family after camp.
  6. Make a new friend (there will be plenty to choose from).
  • Schedule practice overnights with friends or family. Let your child know how proud you are of their independence and how excited you are to hear about what they did while they were away. Coming home from camp they will have even more to share – new friends, activities, accomplishments, etc.
  • Be sure they understand that there is not an option to call you or come home early (if they ask you).
  • Encourage them to write letters and postcards telling about their new friends and the many activities they’re doing at camp. Provide writing materials that are pre-addressed and stamped stored in a Ziplock in their luggage. Many younger children do not know how to address an envelope – here is something you could do at home to prepare for camp. You might practice letter writing as well – send a note to Grandma or a favorite uncle.
  • Write encouraging, cheerful letters to your child. Camp is one of the last places where parents and children have the opportunity to stay in touch via hand-written letters. If you're worried about delivery time, etc., please drop off mail for your child with Tink (our Program Director) or at Check-in and we will mix it in with the other mail being delivered starting on Monday or Tuesday. Won’t you give this gift to your child?
  • Acknowledge your own bittersweet feelings about your child being able to live without you for the camp session, but don’t express your sadness about missing them. It wasn’t that long ago you did almost everything for them, and now they are going to thrive in a kid-oriented, spirit-filled, Christian community as independent beings. Camp is truly a gift you give your child – an opportunity to spread their wings and show their true selves!
  • Remind yourself there are many more tears at the end of camp than at the beginning. Most campers do not want to leave on the last day!
  • Expect a sad letter. Realize letters are usually written early in the camp session and during quiet times when they are feeling more reflective. Usually, the child has recovered and forgotten the sad feelings before the letter makes it to your mailbox.

Please do not:
  • Tell your child, “If you are sad after a few days of camp, call me, and I’ll come pick you up.”  This sets your child up for failure, since most likely they will have some sad feelings that they will need to work through. If this is their plan for dealing with sad feelings at camp, it quite often becomes the reality.
  • Express a lack of confidence in their ability to be away at camp, either directly to them or in front of others.
  • Tell them you’ll be sad and miserable at home without them.
  • Write sad letters to your child outlining how much you miss them and telling them events they are missing at home. If your child is homesick, it will be encouraging to hear that “nothing exciting is happening at home.”

How We Handle Missing Home
Our counselors know positive ways for handling campers who are missing home. They will do the following things to help your child work through the normal adjustment period of being away from home:
1. Give your child time and attention. Talk to them about their feelings and let them know they are normal.
2. Do things to make camp more “homey” for them, such as read them a bedtime story, tuck them in, pray for them, and love them.
3. Encourage your child to use coping strategies that have worked for other campers (see list above).

When to contact camp:
If you receive a sad letter from your child, call us so we can observe your child more closely and talk with his/her counselor. We will call you back with detailed information about your child’s attitude and behavior. Our staff are in camp with your children throughout the day and will call you back within 24 hours.

When we will contact you:
If your child is visibly upset (crying frequently, not participating, having trouble eating or sleeping) and not adjusting to camp after two full camp days, we will call you to let you know what is happening and discuss a plan for helping your child adjust. We do not typically see this type of behavior from our campers.

Without the option of going home, most campers adjust to camp within a short period (24-36 hours). Campers who overcome strong feelings of missing home and successfully complete their camp stay have an incredible sense of accomplishment and independence. Parents, family members, and teachers are always amazed at the impact that this type of accomplishment can have throughout a child or teen's life -- for example, in family relationships and behavior; school, activity, and church participation; and leadership skills.
Additional Resources (just click on the title):
  • Homesick and Happy by Michael Thompson, PhD
  • Summer Camp Handbook by Dr. Chris Thurber
  • Some soothing advice for unhappy campers
  • Why the World Needs Summer Camp
  • Ready for Camp with Bob Ditter
  • ​Ready for Camp (video) with Bob Ditter
  • Summer Camp Blues: Tips to help your kid cope with homesickness
  • Summer Camp Gives Kids Crucial Experiences
  • Dr. Chris Thurber’s Summer Camp Prep Tips Part 1
  • Dr. Chris Thurber’s Summer Camp Prep Tips Part 2

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We are the Outdoor Ministry of the American Baptist Churches of Connecticut (ABCCONN).
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207 Coal Pit Hill Road, Griswold, CT 06351
Phone: 860-376-2179


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